Find Contentment In Forgiving Others

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Forgiving those who have wronged us can be something which we naturally find difficult to do. We must always remember however, what Allah tells us in the Holy Qur’an:

“…And let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Quran 24:22)

We learn from this that the same way we hope Allah will forgive us for our sins, we should forgive others for the things they have done wrong. We should not become so consumed by the doings of others that we decide in our hearts to not forgive them.

We should also be careful not to show externally that we have forgiven people whilst keeping ill feelings for them in our heart. We may be able to hide our thoughts and feelings from those around us, but Allah knows what we truly think. Allah tells in the Holy Qur’an:

“Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Wise.” (Qur’an 76:30)

We should not be under the misconception that not to forgiving a person will somehow bring about benefit to us. Our intention should always be to please Allah. That means that we should forgive the person because we know that ultimately Allah is in charge of everything, and He is our Lord. We put our trust and reliance on Him only. Allah tells us in the Holy Qur’an:

“And whoever puts all his trust in Allah, He will be enough for him.” (Qur’an 65:1)

By withholding our forgiveness, or treating others in a negative way as a result of their behaviour towards us, we unknowingly cause harm to ourselves. When we forgive, we should remember that we are doing this to please Allah. Regardless of our feelings about what others have done, they are accountable to Allah, not us. We are accountable for our actions and feelings, so we should be careful not to let the actions of others cause us to fall into sin by not forgiving them. Allah tells us in the Holy Qur’an:

“Whoever receives guidance, receives it for his own benefit. Whoever goes astray, does so to his own loss.” (Qur’an 17:15)

We are tested through people. In the test of this life, people may do things which upset us, but we should be quick to forgive them as our focus is on receiving Allah’s forgiveness for our own sins. Allah tells us in the Holy Qur’an:

“And we have made some of you as trial for others: will you have patience?” (Qur’an 25:20)

Overall, our aim should never be to gain anything from the creation. We should understand that Allah is our Lord, and He is in control of everything. Therefore, the more we focus on our Lord, the less concerned we will be with the actions of others. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:

“And to your Lord alone turn all your intentions and hopes.” (Qur’an 94:8)