Allah Likes Bashful People
In His Never-Ending Wisdom, Allah sets an example for men to follow in order to have a trouble free and pleasing life. One of these examples is bashfulness. Allah demonstrates to men time and again how bashful He is. “Allah is Bashful and Most Generous, He is too Bashful to let someone go empty-handed after raising his hands in supplication.” (Abu Dawood, 1488) Why? What is there in this quality that is so important?
Bashfulness is a herald of peace. Being bashful is an assured way to tame bitterness and turn everyone’s feelings mellow. Such is the way of Prophets. “Do not enter the houses of the Prophet except when you are permitted for a meal, without awaiting its readiness. But when you are invited, then enter; and when you have eaten, disperse without seeking to remain for conversation. Indeed, that behaviour was troubling the Prophet, and he is shy of dismissing you. But Allah is not shy of the truth.” (33:53) This is a demonstration of how much Allah favours bashful people. When you are bashful, Allah will not forget you.
In the Hadith quoted at the very beginning, the meaning of Allah’s bashfulness is to install peace among people. What feelings shall have one who has been granted his wish? What could Allah have done after hearing the supplication? He could have started considering the sins of the person who has come to Him with this supplication and could have found them grave and could have denied the person’s request. The person would go away with a hardened heart, having in his soul a bitterness which can be vented on other people. Yet, Allah is bashful. He feels ashamed to turn the person away empty-handed. The person gets what he has asked for without any reference to his misdeeds, he goes away with joy and jubilation in his heart, and he spreads the peace that he received from Allah all over.
The virtues of bashfulness are praised many times in the Hadith.
There is one more thing to be mentioned. Bashfulness will always be rewarded. Allah likes bashful people and He will make sure this quality of theirs receives a prize. “Allah is Bashful and conceals faults, He likes bashfulness and concealment of faults.” (Sunan an-Nasai, 406) “Bashfulness is from faith, and faith is in Paradise. Obscenity is from rudeness, and rudeness is in the Fire.” (Sunan at-Tirmidhi, 2009) “Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, passed by a man of the Ansar who was admonishing his brother regarding shyness. Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said, ‘Leave him alone, for bashfulness is a part of the faith. Bashfulness does not bring anything except good. All of bashfulness is good.” (Riyad as-Salihin, 681-682)
It is proper and laudable to be bashful. Bashfulness tames passions and brings out the best in you, it fosters steadfastness in faith, peace and love of Allah. Allah loves bashful people and shall reward them with His grace.