Avoiding the Feeling of Anger: Some tips

Mental Wellbeing Contributor
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Two men from Qatar discussing on a bench, Souq Wakif, Doha © Gauthierdan | Dreamstime.com

We should try our hardest to avoid becoming angry. In a hadith we read that:

A man came and said to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), “Advise me.” The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) replied by saying “Do not become angry”. The man then continued to say “Advise me”. Each time, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said “Do not become angry.” (Bukhari)

We learn from this how important it is to strive to avoid the emotion of anger. Of course, as it is a natural emotion it can be difficult to retain sometimes. In effect, we must remember that just because we may struggle to do so this, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. We should keep in mind that our Lord can see everything we are going through and He will reward us for our efforts to please Him.

In the Holy Qur’an Allah says:

“And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good.” (Qur’an 3:133-134)

This shows us the great reward that Allah grants for one’s efforts to restrain their anger. Gardens in Jannah (Paradise) that Allah describes in the above verse as being as wide as the heavens and earth are given to those people. Those who stop themselves from becoming angry are also described as righteous in the above verse by our Lord.

As we pray to Allah to help us to become people who are more patient in situations which can make us angry, we are also becoming stronger. In a hadith we read that:

“The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but it is the one who can control himself when he is angry.” (Bukhari)

We should also remember that if there is a time when we do become angry, we should seek refuge with our Lord. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said in a hadith:

“If someone said ‘I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytaan,’ his anger would go away.” (Bukhari)

When we become angry, it may be because we are in an argument with someone or a person may have done something that annoyed us. When these things happen or we find ourselves in similar situations, we tend to feel a sense of anger. Our religion teaches us however, that we should be silent as this will aid us in avoiding this unworthy feeling. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:

“If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent”. (Imam Ahmad, Al Musnad)

Islam teaches us the importance of forgiveness. So if we become angry, we should remember that it is of great benefit for us to forgive others. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:

“But [remember that an attempt at] requiting evil may, too, become an evil: hence, whoever pardons [his foe] and makes peace, his reward rests with God – for, verily, He does not love evildoers.” (Qur’an 42:40)

It is clear in this verse that forgiving others and making peace with them is a great deed that Allah will reward us for.

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