Don’t be overwhelmed by what others think of you

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It is very important for us to ensure that we do not allow ourselves to become overwhelmed by other people’s opinions of us. We must understand that as long as we are behaving in the correct way and trying to do the right thing, it should not matter to us if there are people who are insistent on showing negativity.

We must realise that sometimes we will come across people in life who are adamant about what they are saying, even when you can see that they are clearly wrong. In these situations, it is incredibly important to remind ourselves that this should not overwhelm us. We read in the Holy Qur’an:

“And We have made some of you [people] as trial for others – will you have patience? And ever is your Lord, Seeing.” (Qur’an 25:20)

Our focus should be on obeying Allah and striving to please Him only. We should not let other people’s opinions of us matter so much. The more we strive to follow the teachings of our faith, the less we will be concerned about what other people think.

We may come across people that just don’t agree with us on anything because for some reason they don’t get along with us. We must try to accept that and focus on the positive aspects and people in our life. Acceptance helps us to move on rather than dwell.

It is crucial for us to understand that just because someone has a negative opinion of another person, it doesn’t mean it is true and factual. We must question ourselves about how someone’s opinion of us even affects us. If we know that we are doing the right thing, then has what they said changed anything for us? Of course it has not, so we must not allow ourselves to become so influenced by the negative words of others.

When you are aiming to please Allah and you are really trying to do good, you should not allow yourself to become demotivated because of what someone may have said about you, whether that was to you in person, or behind your back. We read in a hadith:

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace, and blessings be upon him, said, “Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and his messenger know best.” The Prophet said, “To mention your brother in a way he dislikes.” It was said, “What do you think if what I said about him is true?” The Prophet said, “If what you say about him is true, it is backbiting. If it is not true, it is slander.” (Muslim)

We must realise that it is not our reputation in the eyes of people, their opinions of us, or their negative words towards us that will establish whether or not we will go to Jannah. We should never be aiming to please people and completely forget that it is our Lord who we should be focused on.