Don’t keep reminding yourself of your failures
As we go through the journey of life, we can sometimes be overcome with reminders about the times when we were not successful. This can provoke feelings of regret that never seem to leave our minds. The reminders can come unexpectedly making it all the more difficult to cope with. As with any trial we face in life, we should keep in mind that as Muslims, we should look to our faith as a guide and way of life, whether we are going through times of difficulty or ease.
Upon recalling a time when we were not successful in doing something, we should remember that we do not necessarily know what is best for ourselves. All too often we forget the fact that is not us who are most knowledgeable about what is good for us and what the consequences of our actions will be.
Islam teaches us that Allah is the All-Knowing. We believe that we need Him in order for us to get through the tests of this life and be successful in the Hereafter. It is not enough for us to try by ourselves. We require the help of Allah, so we make sincere du’aa to Him, we pray to Him, and we strive to increase our remembrance of Him, knowing that He is the only true source of help.
We should remind ourselves that when we label certain outcomes in our lives as ‘failures’, we are not even acknowledging the fact that Allah saves us from so many difficulties that we are not even aware of. Sometimes through experiencing one struggle, we may have been saved from an encounter that would have been much worse.
Therefore, we should refrain from thoughts that may eventually cause to worry and stress over things that have happened in our lives. Becoming so engrossed in the past will restrict us from focusing on the present and making the most of today. We should be grateful for each day that Allah grants us and look at it as an opportunity to improve ourselves as believers and raise our Imaan.
We should remember that the true meaning of success is pleasing Allah. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:
“And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me.” (Qur’an 51:56)
Also, we read in a hadith that Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:
“A strong believer is better and is more lovable to Allah than a weak believer, and there is good in everyone, (but) cherish that which gives you benefit (in the Hereafter) and seek help from Allah and do not lose heart, and if anything (in the form of trouble) comes to you, don’t say: If I had not done that, it would not have happened so and so, but say: Allah did that what He had ordained to do and your” if” opens the (gate) for the Satan.” (Muslim)