Experiencing loneliness: What not to do?
It is not rare at some point, or many times, for a person to experience loneliness in their life and feel as though they do not have anyone in this world who they feel close to or are able to rely on. Whether or not we ourselves has experienced this, we must be considerate about the fact that people around us may have experienced this, or some may still be going through this.
It may be that someone we know is struggling with loneliness and we are not even aware of this. This is one of the reasons why it is so important for us to follow the teaching of our religion about being kind and polite to others, as we will never be completely aware of what another person is enduring.
A person who is Muslim, knowing that Allah is our Lord and Creator, may still experience loneliness. They may go through times in their life when they do not feel a sense of belonging anymore, regardless of where they go or what they do in search of this notion.
This feeling of being alone can start for many people when they are very young. Perhaps they did not get to spend a lot of time with their families even if they lived with them, especially if their family were very busy at the time. Other people have children who do not spend a lot of time with them, for various reasons. We have people in our communities across the world who have no choice but to live alone because they work in different city or country to their loved ones.
Many of our brothers and sisters who are reverts to the religion have shared their stories publicly about their experiences from when they were new to the religion. Understandably, on this new journey, these brothers and sisters may have experienced loneliness and not felt a sense of belonging, purely because they may not have had family or people they were close to who shared their religion.
This is why it is so important for us to be welcoming and generous in helping others so they may feel more positive and at ease.
It is so important to remember, though, that even if a person feels as though they have no one in the world that can truly depend and rely on, Allah will always be there. Allah is our Lord and Creator – He has and will always be there, even in the times we ourselves forget about Him because we become so distracted by different things in this temporary, worldly life.
The trials, sadness and times of hardship that we experience in our lives all make us realise that ultimately our only source of hope and help is Allah. He is in charge of everything that happens and everything that will happen next. We must never forget this, and we should strive to increase our remembrance of Him.
We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out, And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.” (Qur’an 65:2-3)
Whenever we experience a time in our lives when we feel lonely or feel as though we do not have anyone to share our sorrows with, we should try to keep in mind that Allah is always there. We should also remind ourselves of the care our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) had for the entire Ummah.