Funeral prayer and women: What is permissible?

Islam Contributor
Funeral prayer
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It is often seen that women do not take part in a funeral prayer but go out of the house with the deceased to the graveyard. There is a kind of emotion in everyone about this subject. Different people also expressed their views in favor of women going with the deceased in different ways. But in fact, Islam does not allow women to walk with the deceased or go to the graveyard for burial.

Participation in a funeral prayer for women

It is a unanimous decision of Islam that it is not permissible for women to participate in funeral prayers. They are even forbidden to go with the deceased for burial. The Prophet (SAW), his Companions, and the great scholars of Islam also have clear prohibitions in this regard.

One day the Prophet (SAW) was about to perform funeral prayer. Suddenly he saw an old woman coming to perform the funeral prayer. Seeing this, he became angry and his face turned red with anger. The old woman was then returned to his order. He did not start the funeral prayer even when the deceased was ready for the purpose of praying. People said to him, we swear by Allah! That woman has gone into hiding in the city house. Then he gave Takbir of Salah.

Scholars take on funeral prayers

Umm Atiyah (R) said: The Prophet (SAW) forbade us (girls) to go out for funeral prayer.

Amr ibn Qays (R) said: We were present at a funeral prayer. Abu Umamah (R) was also there. He saw some women coming to perform the funeral prayer. Then he told them to move away.

The famous scholar Shabi (Rah) was asked, “Will women participate in the funeral prayers? He replied, “No, women will not participate in the funeral prayers, whether they are pure or menstruating.”

From the above-mentioned hadith of the Prophet (SAW) and the deeds and fatwas of the Companions, I hope it is clear to the reader that it is not permissible for women to go out for the purpose of funeral prayer and burial.

The women will stay at home and pray for the dead. It is the command of Islam for them in this context.

Visiting graves for women

Visiting graves has a powerful effect on softening the mind, increasing the remembrance of the Hereafter, and reducing the wealth, fame, and greed of this world. That is why the Prophet (SAW) also taught us the Sunnah of visiting graves.

But is this period of grave visitation only Sunnah for men? Or Sunnah for women as well – there is a lot of confusion in society in this context.

There are two opposite hadiths regarding visiting graves for women. It is narrated by Abu Hurairah (R) that the Prophet (SAW) cursed the women who visited the graves.

In another hadith, Ali (R) narrated that the Prophet’s daughter Fatima (R) used to visit the grave of her uncle Hamza (R) every Friday. He would pray there and cry inside the graveyard.

Scholars take on visiting graves

Many scholars have explained these two types of contradictory hadiths in the light of another hadith. According to them, “In that hadith, women who visit graves are cursed; That hadith is from the first era of Islam. At that time visiting graves was forbidden in Islam. Later, when the ban was lifted and permission was given to visit the graves, that permission was given to all, men and women alike. ”

This is why we see in the second hadith that Fatima (R), the daughter of the Prophet (SAW) herself used to visit her uncle’s grave every Friday. Like the Prophet’s daughter, his wife Ayesha (R) also used to visit the grave. Abdullah bin Abi Mulaika (R) said, “One day Ayesha (R) came from the graveyard. I asked her, where did you come from? She said, “I came from the grave of my brother Abdur Rahman.” Then I asked her, “Didn’t the Prophet forbid visiting graves?” She replied, “Yes, (in the early days of Islam) the Prophet forbade visiting graves. But later he ordered to visit the grave.”

So, in essence, women can visit graves just like men. However, in this case, it must be remembered that if a woman is interested in visiting the grave by following the Shariah veil, avoiding associating with men, and exclaiming loudly at the grave, there is no restriction in Islam for her.