Helping Someone Who is Grieving

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We may face situations in our lives in which we need to help someone who is grieving. We can help someone who is grieving by reminding them that one day we will all leave this world, so it is something we will all experience. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:

“Every soul will taste death.” (Qur’an 3:185)

Nothing in this world will last forever – everything in this world is temporary. We do not know when we will die, but we know that the time that we will die has already been decreed by Allah and it is a certainty. Therefore, as much as we may be disheartened by losing people close to us, we need to try our hardest to remember, and remind others, that death is something that is written for us all. We read in the Holy Qur’an:

“And worship your Lord until there comes to you the certainty (death).” (Qur’an 15:99)

We can also help a person who is grieving by reminding them of what they can do to help the person who has passed away. They can give to charity to different projects so that the person who has died will continue to gain rewards from that. There are so many different projects they could donate to. For example, there are charities that build water wells in areas where there is a lack of water, so that the entire area can benefit from having access to a continuous supply of clean water that is safe to use.

We could also encourage a person who is grieving to make du’aa and pray for the sins of the person who has passed away to be forgiven by Allah. They could pray that Allah accepts the good they did in this world and rewards them for their efforts. We should advise them to make du’aa that Allah allows that person to enter Jannah easily. We should also tell others about the death of the person with the intention that others will also make du’aa for them. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said in a hadith:

“When a man dies, his action discontinues from him except three things, namely, perpetual sadaqah (charity), or the knowledge by which benefit is acquired, or a pious child who prays for him.” (Sunan Abi Dawud)

It is also helpful to try to remind them person who is grieving that they will be rewarded for having patience. It is undoubtably difficult to cope with such a loss, but the reward for patience in Islam is very great. We should also remind them that Allah sees every struggle we go through. We read in the Holy Qur’an:

“It is He who created the heavens and earth in six days and then established Himself above the Throne. He knows what penetrates into the earth and what emerges from it and what descends from the heaven and what ascends therein; and He is with you wherever you are. And Allah, of what you do, is Seeing.” (Qur’an 57:4)

There are many trials we are faced with in this world, and striving to endure them with patience is what will help us to be successful in both this life and the next. We read in the Holy Qur’an:

“O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” (Qur’an 2:153)

We should also remind ourselves that we read in the Holy Qur’an:

“Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return.” (Qur’an 2:156)