How a Muslim should treat his wife

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We live in a world where domestic violence and divorce are sadly on the rise. It is so serious that many women are losing their lives in the process. In these unfortunate times, there is still hope because Islam has given us all we need to know to make a marriage peaceful, joyful, and stress-free. Domestic violence is on the rise because many couples have failed to adhere to the principles of Islam. Allah (SWT) and the Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) have given humanity the guidelines needed for a tranquil home. Allah (SWT) said in the Quran (4:34) that:

Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others.

Here are some of the ways a Muslim husband is expected to treat his wife:

1. Be Merciful

Marriage is not a dictatorship but an institution that has been approved and blessed by Almighty Allah (SWT) so it should reflect happiness. In the Quran (30:21), Allah (SWT) gave this description of marriage:

…He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts.

Some husbands behave like tyrants and are never diplomatic with their wives. This is against the teachings of Islam as even the Noble Prophet admonished husbands to be the best of partners to their wives. In a hadith transmitted by Tirmidhi (from the Mishkat al-Masabih, Number 0278), the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:

‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is the one who has excellent behaviour, and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’

As a husband, always remember that Allah (SWT) shows mercy to you over your wrongdoings too so you should emulate the same thing when relating with your wife. Be merciful towards her and do not judge her based on her flaws.

2. Be Supportive

The Almighty Allah (SWT) already told us that this life (Dunya) is nothing but a test and it is one that will be full of afflictions and trials. That means that this life is not going to be perfect for you or your wife. Some periods are going to be very challenging. Whenever your wife is in a challenging condition, do not abandon her, give her maximum support at all times.

3. Appreciate Her Input When Making Decisions

Even when the Holy Prophet (SAW) was alive, he employed the method of a majlis shura (consultative assembly) with his wives and companions. Whenever it was time for him to make decisions, he always sought the opinion of his wives and they made decisions together.

4. Communicate and Do Not Be Judgemental

Some husbands have the bad attitude of keeping malice and not communicating with their wives during times of disagreements. Always communicate and even more importantly, do not be judgemental when it comes to her flaws.

Islam has given us the perfect guidelines we need to keep our spouses happy. Marriage will have their challenges and these challenges are opportunities for us to get close to Allah (SWT) in supplications and prayers. Make your wives happy and the rewards will be there for you on the Day of Judgement. May Allah (SWT) make our affairs easy, aameen.