How a Wife Should Treat Her Husband in Islam
In Islam, marriage is a highly-respected institution and as a result, there are guidelines and rulings put in place by Almighty Allah (SWT) to assist Muslim couples. As long as you adhere to these guidelines, your marriage is going to be bliss. This article is on how a wife is expected to treat her husband in Islam.
Whatever you do as a wife, the first thing you must have at the back of your mind is that your spouse is another fellow Muslim. Hence, you have to consider your husband first as a Muslim and anything else second. You have to treat him with respect for there can be no peace in a marriage without respect. Love cannot exist in the absence of respect.
Once there is respect, another thing you need to help your husband with is to help him become a better Muslim. The Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said of a good wife:
The best property that a man can have is a tongue that remembers Allah, a heart full of gratitude and a believing wife who assists him in his faith.
So as a Muslim wife, it is your primary duty to help your husband in his deen (faith). If he is not punctual with his duties as a Muslim, encourage and support him every step of the way. That said, you are expected to give your husband the kindest and most merciful treatment. You should be kind to your husband in your speech and manners. Your husband is human and that means that there will be moments of weakness for him too, there will be periods when he will make mistakes, do not take it out on him as the wife. Be supportive, understanding, and encouraging at all times.
As a woman, Allah (SWT) has created you to be quite different from a man. Hence, the way he is going to reason and look at issues is going to be remarkably different from yours. Now that you know this, you will have to display a lot of tolerance and patience in all you do. Almighty Allah (SWT) and the Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) enjoined us in many instances to be very patient and tolerant in all that we do. So, you need to apply these qualities to your marriage too and you are going to see all the benefits.
In addition to all that has been said earlier, another way you should treat your husband is to be his defender. The same way the husband is expected to defend your honour, pride, and prestige in your presence and absence, you should also do the same for him as his wife. You should be able and willing to defend him and protect his image even in his absence.
You should also refrain from being aggressive or insulting. This is important to state out because there will be moments in the marriage where tensions will rise and it takes a lot of wisdom for you to handle matters with love and care. May Almighty Allah (SWT) give Muslim couples the best in their marriages, aameen.