How to raise a pious child?
Children are one of the greatest blessings of Allah(SWT) that he gives to us. But, we all know that having a raising a pious child is not an easy task. It is evident that with great blessings come greater responsibilities. Allah(SWT) wants us to raise our children in line with the teachings of the Holy Quran. Also the prophetic traditions, Hadith and Sunnah.
It is said that Abdullah bin Umar, the Messenger of Allah(PBUH) narrated about this is Hadith.
“Each of you is a shepherd and thus responsible for his flock. A man is a shepherd in charge of the inhabitants of his household and he is responsible for his flock; a woman is a shepherdess in charge of her husband’s house and children and she is responsible for them… so each of you is a shepherd and thus responsible for his flock.” \[Abu Dawood, 2928]
The task becomes more tough for parents who live in non-Muslim countries. We have to remember that children are an ‘amnaah’ of Allah(SWT). Hence we all will be questioned in this matter on the day of Keyamat. So, we must ensure that our children grow up to be a good human beings along with good practicing Muslims. Pious God-consciousness stands for the pious who have a good understanding of the religion. It is mentioned in Surat Al ‘Imran, where Allah The Almighty
Said: …”Be pious scholars of the Lord because of what you have taught of the Scripture and because of what you have studied.” [Quran 3:79]
Here are some practical tips for how we can inculcate Islamic values in our childrens’ daily life.
1. Make the basics a routine
We have to remember that kids are essentially like a blank canvas. It is our responsibility to paint that canvas with basic faith of Allah. Kids are shaped easily by the routines and habits set by the elders. For example, if you teach your child the habit of offering Salah on a daily basis from a young age, he or she will never forget it. This habit will take him or her towards the path of Allah. You can even recite Surahs and Kalmas to them every day before bedtime. This will help them to memorize the Surahs and Kalmas fast.
2. Teach them the importance and significance of Worship
Along with focusing on the theoretical basics of Islam, teach them what our peaceful religion preaches. Rationalize it for their better realisation. Also teach them the importance of worshipping Allah (SWT). Educate them what worship really means… to deeply connect to Allah(SWT). And it has to be done alone. Make them understand the real purpose of this world and this life: to worship Allah and to turn to Him in all ways of life.
3. Make their Islamic education very much important
Put in an effort to work on your childrens’ spirritual education along with academic excellence. Provide them with books on the basics of Islam, attributes of Allah (SWT), about our beloved prophet Muhammad (SAW). Also, take some time to recite the Quran with them. Tell them stories about our beloved Prophet. This is the way our kids will be interested in our own great religion and its history.
4. Practice what you preach and teach
Finally, always practice what you preach. The parent should be a good role model as kids tend to internalize the beliefs of the elders from a very young age. They pick up habits unconsciously. So, set up a practical example in front of them. For example, take your kids to the mosque with you for Jummah prayers every week. If you don’t practice what you preach, your own words will be of no credibility.