How to Raise Teenage Children in Islam
One of the biggest challenges that you are going to face in life is the upbringing of your children. These challenges tend to reach a peak by the time your offspring enter the teenage period. Teenage is a stage of life that comes with a lot of challenges and it presents itself as a major headache for these parents who just want their teenage children to become well-behaved and practising Muslims.
All over the world, there are Muslim parents utterly confused or at a loss as to how best, they should raise their teenage children. But once again, Islam proves to be the ultimate guide to life and it has some very beneficial and productive tips in this regard. The first thing you need to have at the back of your mind is that being a parent is not a part-time hobby but a full-time job. As a Muslim parent, it is solely your responsibility to raise your children in the ways of Islam.
For you to achieve this, you will need to spend quality time with your children and let them imbibe the values of Islam.
This is best done via sessions of Islamic education with them and it is of greater benefit than any toy you can get for them.
A useful tip for you as a parent is that you should take time to read and comprehend the Holy Qur’an with your teenage children. All you need to do is set aside like 15 minutes every day for you all to ponder over the verses and renew your connection with Almighty Allah (SWT). This way, you will be able to expose your children to the most important lessons of virtue.
At this point, you need to realize that you must have some things in mind for all these tactics to work. The best examples that your children will see and follow are you. If you want all the lessons you are giving your children to have any meaningful impact, then you have to be an exemplary character yourself. If you teach your children not to lie, then you should not have the habit of lying yourself. If you teach them to respect others, then you also have to demonstrate the same thing when interacting with others.
This said you should also not make the same mistake that other parents make when relating to their teenage children.
Many parents behave like dictators and do everything possible to stifle the voices of their young ones who then turn out to be rebellious and disobedient. You should be friendly with your children and appreciate their views, questions, and opinions. Let them be free and open with you and do not shut them up when all they are just trying to do is express themselves. Be the best friend of your child.
After you have done all you can do as a parent, you must never forget to pray to Almighty Allah (SWT) at all times to give you the endless wisdom and intelligence needed in handling and raising your kids. May Allah (SWT) ease the affairs of parents everywhere, aameen.