Is it true that ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’?
Whenever we feel that we are developing the mentality that ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’, we must strive to remove these kinds of thoughts from our minds. This is a common and natural thought to have, as some situations or hardships we face in life may automatically cause us to question what happens in our lives. The truth is, we will never know what the future holds, neither will we know for sure what the outcome will be for the different choices we make in life.
It may be that we are entering a stage of our lives in which we are embarking on the next step in our education. Perhaps we have enrolled onto a university programme and we have started to struggle at the first hurdle. In these circumstances, it is natural for us to think that, had we enrolled at a different university, then we would not face these issues. What we need to remind ourselves and realise here is that we do not know what would have really happened if we had gone to a different university. We should avoid this mindset, as only Allah knows what the future holds, not us.
Also, we should not question the situations we find ourselves in life, as of course we believe that everything we go through in life was written by Allah to happen. Instead of thinking about what could have happened instead, we should really develop a way of thinking that encourages us to look at everything that happens in our life as a test, as that is the reality. Realising that the situations we face are there to test us, will actually help us to avoid questioning everything in our lives. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an 2:216)
We will be more focused on achieving success in each of the tests that Allah gives us in order to please Him, instead of thinking only about achieving worldly success. We believe that as this life is a test and it is temporary, no situation in our life will be perfect. We will experience happiness, sadness, success and failure in this world. This is a part of the life that Allah has blessed us with. Having a firm understanding of this in our minds and hearts will help us focus only pleasing Allah and seeking success in the Hereafter. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“And the worldly life is not but amusement and diversion; but the home of the Hereafter is best for those who fear Allah, so will you not reason?” (Qur’an 6:32)
We must learn and try our best to accept what happens in our life as Allah’s decree, and focus on doing what will help us to improve as believers and increase our Imaan. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed – and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving.” (Qur’an 67:2)