Learn from your trials in life and remember them

Psychology Contributor
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Whenever we go through trials in life, we must try our best to learn from them. Every trial that we are faced with has something that we can take from it as a lesson as we try to improve our connection with our Lord and improve ourselves as believers. We are only human, so of course we will feel disheartened and overwhelmed when we are faced with trials. However, it is our duty as believers to try – Allah sees our efforts. Nothing in this world happens without a reason, whether we feel positive or negative, there is always something to learn.


When we face a failure at some point in our life, we should try to reflect and think about what it means. We should not always try to look at our failure in a negative light. We should try to see through the sadness and the despair we face, striving to see the light at the end of the tunnel as well as the lessons we can learn from the trial. And should never forget that Allah always saves us from things that we are not even aware of, so we should try to avoid hopelessness and despair. Our Lord knows what is best for us and our faith.


Perhaps we have just been to an interview that we worked really hard for and we put a lot of time into the interview preparation. Of course, in that situation, if we find out that we were not successful in securing the job offer, it is only natural that we will feel disheartened or upset.


It may even make us feel as though our time and efforts have completely gone to waste. Sometimes people are working in one job and are preparing for another interview in any spare time they find. Therefore, we know that sacrificing our time in our busy schedules to prepare for an interview is of course going to mean that we may feel disheartened if we are not offered the job. Seeing the outcome of our efforts seemingly go to waste will obviously cause us to feel negative.


Even in these situations, we must remind ourselves that our Lord knows what is best for us. We must remember that He is the All-Knowing. He is aware of everything that happens and everything that will happen in our life. Therefore, we should always try to take a step back and reflect on our trials.


We should try to think about the fact that perhaps the job we were so desperate to secure but were not successful, may not have actually been good for us. How do we know for sure that it wouldn’t have caused us great struggle in the future? How do we know that after working in that job, we wouldn’t have realised later on that it is not what we actually enjoy? This is why it is so important for us to place our complete trust in Allah and cement in our hearts and minds that He knows what is best for us. We read in the Holy Qur’an:


“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an 2:216)


In life, we may often have aims and goals that we create with much planning and thought. We feel that due to our experiences in life, we know that what we want is definitely good for us. Amongst all our aims and goals, we must not forget that Allah is the All-Knowing, and He knows what is best for us. We can only plan whilst placing our ultimate trust in Him. We read in the Holy Qur’an:


“And whoever puts all his trust in Allah, He will be enough for him.” (Qur’an 65:1)

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