Love the Prophet SAW? Watch Your Speech
It’s Rabi’ul Awal, the birth month of our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. There will be mawlid events everywhere, especially on the 12th of Rabi’ul Awal and plenty of other acts of remembrance and to show love towards our beloved Prophet. As believers, we are encouraged to send blessings and salutations abundantly to him, peace be upon him daily, and what more in this special month.
Apart from that, how can we show our love to our Rasulullah? Mufti Ismail Menk in his podcast titled ‘Love the Prophet SAW’ mentions that love for Nabi Muhammad can be shown not just by sending regular blessings and salutations but also by following his footsteps, for his is after all the best of creation. Yes, we will never attain the perfection like the Rasulullah, but we should aim and try.
Where can we start, you ask? How about starting with our speech?
Speech of Kindness & Mercy
In the same podcast, Mufti Menk mentions that our Rasullullah’s words are full of kindness and mercy. Did you know that when the Prophet talked to Aisyah RA, he made her blush? When’s the last time we spoke kindly to our family members or our spouse? Don’t you think this should be our cue to review back the words we utter to the people around us?
It is also widely spoken of as to how our Prophet dislikes loose talk and whenever he is addressing a person, he faces that person while speaking. These days, we face our mobile phones more, even when we’re sitting at the dinner table with all our family members. And when we gather as a family, or when we’re with our friends, what do we talk about? We gossip about the absent family member or friend.
Don’t forget too that actions speak louder than words. Supplement your kind words with actions so that it does not just become lip service.
As narrated by ‘Aishah, that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Indeed among the believers with the most complete faith is the one who is the best in conduct, and the most kind to his family.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2612)
Speech Free of Spite and Cruelty
‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr said; “The Messenger of Allah said:
“The best of you are those best in conduct.’ And the Prophet was not one who was obscene, nor one who uttered obscenities.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi, 1975)
Mufti Menk then reminded us of how as Muslims, we should be careful of our character and conduct. “Some of us are lacking in character and conduct because we feel that it’s detached from the Deen. We may be watchful of our solat, our Quran recitation, our zakat, our adhkar, but then we swear and our speech is full of deceit, lies and hurtful words. Remember, no matter how pious you think are, if your tongue is not clean, you cannot consider yourself a true lover of the Messenger of Allah because your method of speech is very far away from his teachings.”
Did the Prophet, peace be upon him, swore at his enemies, or abused them? Cursed them in a rotten way? Never. Instead, he prayed for them.
Mufti Menk asks us to reflect on the story of Taif. How the Prophet was hurt badly up to the extent that blood was soaking his shoes, yet he did not ask Allah to destroy the people of Taif. Instead, Rasulullah, peace be upon him, asked for Allah to bless the people of Taif with progeny who will be Muslims.
Our Rasulullah is the embodiment of the Quran. Do we see any harsh and inappropriate words used there? Definitely not. And most certainly our Prophet too has never uttered words of such nature. But why do the believers now spew harsh and hurtful words so easily, and sometimes even ‘religious’ people are caught saying very inappropriate things with inappropriate tone.
On the flip side, there are Muslims using hurtful and vile words to criticise ulamas in the name of the Deen. How does this work? Isn’t Allah the most kind, merciful and compassionate? And the Prophet has said that a mu’min is not abusive or vulgar.
‘Abdullah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said:
“The believer does not insult the honor of others, nor curse, nor commit Fahishah, nor is he foul.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1977)
How about us now? We hurl hurtful words over simplest mistakes such as a wrong order at the restaurant. What do we do when we see a female celebrity wearing something sexy? We take to our keyboards and curse at them on Facebook or Instagram. As Muslims who claim to love Allah and our Prophet, peace be upon him, we need to reflect and learn a lesson here.
We hope this Rabi’ul Awal our hearts and tongues will not be busy with just sending blessings and salutations towards the Prophet, peace be upon him, but also with saying thoughtful and good words towards other people, especially to those who are closest to us.