Maintaining Care and Consideration When Advising Others About the Deen

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Islam teaches us to be careful about the way in which we choose to advise others on matters of the Deen, so that we do not push them away from the Deen. We read in a hadith:

Narrated Ibn Mas`ud: “The Prophet (SAW) used to take care of us in preaching by selecting a suitable time, so that we might not get bored. (He abstained from pestering us with sermons and knowledge all the time)”. (Sahih Bukhari)

This shows us how much care and consideration the Prophet (SAW) put into ensuring that people did not become demotivated about learning the Deen.

We read in another hadith:

Narrated Anas bin Malik: The Prophet (SAW) said, “Facilitate things to people (concerning religious matters), and do not make it hard for them and give them good tidings and do not make them run away (from Islam).” (Sahih Bukhari)

We learn from this that when we advise others on matters of the Deen, we should not do so in such a way that makes them not want to learn anymore about it. This also highlights the responsibility of the person who is advising.

We also read that:

Narrated Abu Wail: “Abdullah used to give a religious talk to the people on every Thursday. Once a man said, ‘O Aba `Abdur-Rahman! (By Allah) I wish if you could preach us daily.’ He replied, ‘The only thing which prevents me from doing so, is that I hate to bore you, and no doubt I take care of you in preaching by selecting a suitable time just as the Prophet (SAW) used to do with us, for fear of making us bored.’” (Sahih Bukhari)

Through learning how to advise in a considerate and caring way, we will be ensuring that we are not making Islam seem difficult. Islam is a simple way of life.

Explaining matters of the Deen in a harsh manner could cause a person who wants to learn more about Islam to perceive non-Islamic things as more appealing and comforting, even though we know that there is no peace or comfort without Allah. We should try to think about how we would feel if we were in their position, and how we would hope for others to teach us kindly.

May Allah make it easy for us to advise others and may He guide people to the straight path. Aameen.