Marriage in Islam: Is it for a lifetime?
Marriage and family are a central focal point in Islam. To start with, marriage in Islam is the foundation of a family. The foundation is also either blood ties or marital commitment. To preserve the society and maintain its healthy structure, marriage from an islamic point of view is a necessity and a righteous act to achieve such a responsibility. It is a commitment in itself to society, human race, one another as well as to God. Islam encourages its adherents to marry. And to create a family on the conditions that they stay faithful to each other for the rest of their lives and to have children and bring them up in the Muslim faith.
Purpose of marriage in Islam
Muslims look at the Prophet Muhammed (SAW) as a role model to follow, including his teachings and actions. Therefore, Allah (SWT) mentioned marriage in the Quran by taking the example of Prophet Muhammed’s marriage. As mentioned in the following Ayah, “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)” Quran 30:21
Allah is stating that, following the example of Prophet Muhamed (SAW), Muslims should marry. Men in specific can marry up to four wives, as long as he can equally treat them. This practice is referred to as polygamy. On the contrary, women are forbidden to have more than one husband.
Islam regards marriage as a religious duty through which Muslims get protected against committing sins. Such as adultery and celibacy. The Prophet is reportedly said; “He who marries completes half of his religion; it now rests with him to complete the other half by leading a virtuous life in constant fear of god”
Marriage in Islam and in practice
In Islamic society, marriage is a contract. Similar to civil contract, between two that chose to commit to one another and to God. In the presence of two witnesses and a legal guardian (Wali). The marriage in Islam is done without any distinctions based on casts, color, kin, etc. and necessitates that people should know that the couple are married (eshhar) . Islam discouraged any restrictions or ceremonies that could hinder marriage from happening. On the other hand, Islam calls for easy and simple marrigae in which the couple decied on a low Mahr to facilitate the burdens for the husband.
Islam goes much further than this in setting the course of behavior for husbands and wives. First and foremost, Islam ensured that the husband is the protector and the breadwinner of the family, this includes shelter, feeding, clothing, education and security no matter how wealthy the wife may be. Additionally, the husband is commanded to treat his wife with respect, love and understanding and in return she is expected to obey him, moral upbringing of children, and contribute to the success of the marriage.
Marriage: Is it for a lifetime?
In Islam, Marriage should be taken as a serious longterm bond as possible. However, that bond is not unbreakable. In case the couple couldn’t succeed in preserving that bond, Allah (SWT) allowed them to divorce by the half of man (talaq), or to be separated by the half of women (khol’).