No bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another

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Donkey pulling a cart in the Siwa oasis - Egypt© Cristian Tecu | Dreamstime.com

We should be careful about our behaviour towards those who we feel act in an unjust or harsh manner. We must remember that only they are accountable for their actions, so we should not let their behaviour cause us to fall into sin as a result of our ill feelings towards them. Allah tells us in the Holy Qur’an:

“And we have made some of you as trial for others: will you have patience?” (Qur’an 25:20)

These are the words of our Lord. He is telling us that as part of the test of this life, we will also be tested through people. Our test in this life will not just be through hardships such as our financial situation or our studies. We are tested through the behaviour of others and the way in which they treat us.

When we remind ourselves that we were only created to worship Allah, we should remember that this means our ultimate aim is to be successful in the test of this life by pleasing Allah.

So, when we feel someone is behaving unjustly towards us, we should remember that this is a part of our test. Our duty is not to judge them for what they are doing, or seek revenge. Our focus should solely be on doing what pleases our Lord.

We should remember that we should be more concerned about our own actions than the actions of others. We should not spend time worrying about the reason for their behaviour. Sometimes we just have to accept that it is not our duty to change the character of another person.

We were created by Allah and so was everyone else. We all make mistakes, so we should focus on our own mistakes, on trying to improve in our Deen and on repenting to Allah. In doing so, we will not be thinking as much about what other people are doing. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:

“Whoever receives guidance, receives it for his own benefit. Whoever goes astray, does so to his own loss. No bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another.” (Qur’an 17:15)

This should remind us that we should not behave towards others based on their behaviour towards us. Our reaction in every situation should be focused on what pleases Allah. We read in the above verse that no one will be accountable for the deeds of another person. We should keep this in mind and let it encourage us to concentrate on bettering ourselves as believers.

Allah says in the Holy Qur’an: “And do not let your dislike of a people lead you to be unjust.” (Qur’an 5:8)

We should take this as a reminder that we have to be very careful in our behaviour towards others, regardless of their actions. We should always focus only on pleasing our Lord.