Own Up To Your Mistakes, Don’t Run From It
Nobody is perfect in this world. We all make mistakes whether it’s big or small. To err is human, we are highly aware of this. But why is it so darn difficult for us to own up to our mistakes and say the words “I’m sorry”?
Ever experienced a situation where you’ve been hurt by a friend or a family member? Most of us would prefer to be the recipient of an apology, but it’s different when you’re actually the one who has to give it right?
There are many reasons why saying ‘I’m sorry’ is truly a challenging task for some. The first and most obvious reason would be because no one likes to admit they’re wrong.
Secondly, some people find it hard to apologise due to fear of rejection. The thought of getting a cold shoulder or not being forgiven for can be unsettling for some.
Thirdly, it goes back to not wanting to let their guard down because ego gets in the way. Sometimes people may feel that being the first to initiate an apology is a sign of weakness, even though they very well know they’re in the wrong.
This leads to the next point, vulnerability. When one admits their mistakes or say I’m sorry, it equates to being inadequate or incompetent and no one wants to feel that they are so.
Another reason people prefer to avoid apologies is because they prefer to stay in denial. Some want the easy way out, and this means by not admitting they’ve done anything wrong, it will slowly pan out as though they’ve done no wrong at all. Therefore, there isn’t a pressing need to take responsibility.
Here’s why it’s incredibly important for us to own up to our mistakes and take responsibility for our faults.
The key to healthy relationships be it with family, friends or significant others, is communication and trust. When you have made a mistake, don’t run from it, don’t try to spin your mistakes, don’t try to pass the burden and blame someone else. When you don’t own up to your mistakes, miscommunication happen and this will lead to other problems pile up day by day. Making mistakes is human, but admitting mistakes is heroic. Not taking responsibility for wrongdoings can make you appear untrustworthy. Apologies, when done right, can be positively powerful. Always remember that making things right is more important than being right.
Life is full of lessons. If we don’t make mistakes, we won’t learn anything from it. Sometimes the lessons learned from a discouraging experience can prove to be valuable. It teaches us to be more mindful next time and most importantly to not repeat the same mistakes again.
Owning up to what you did wrong will actually influence those around you to see you in a new light thus earning you more respect. Your mother will appreciate your honesty in admitting you broke her favourite glass, instead of you hiding around the bushes pretending it wasn’t you.
FACE YOUR FEARS
Sometimes people don’t own their mistakes because of an overriding fear of failure. Nobody likes to admit defeat. But taking responsibility for them is the only way to get over that fear. Also, owning up to mistakes and apologizing also helps to get over fear of confrontation. Often times we are way too comfortable with not communicating verbally and face to face. Verbal communication is always better than text messages as it helps to prevent miscommunication.
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