Positive parenting: Taking care of child’s development
Positive parenting is a new buzz for young parents. But it is not at all a fad, instead, these parenting solutions give you the tools to conquer the power struggles with your children. It focuses on teaching proper behaviour using gentle yet firm parenting techniques. It helps you to create a peaceful happy home.
What is Positive Parenting?
It is a parenting principle which is based on a few assumptions that kids are born with goodness. Moreover, they intend to do the right things. It focuses on the importance of mutual respect. Also, it helps to imply positive instructions to discipline. Positive parenting emphasizes on teaching future behaviour rather than for punishing past wrongdoings. Many modern young parents accept and imply these kind parenting principles as they do not want to raise their children the way they were raised. They are aware of their kid’s needs, developing stages and temperament.
What are the benefits of Positive Parenting?
Positive Parenting has innumerable benefits. It helps to raise our future generation healthily both physically and psychologically. Some of the benefits are,
Several pieces of research have shown that positive parenting and discipline yield better results in the case of a kid’s behaviour and emotional growth. A warm parent raises a warm and happy kid than a cold and unresponsive parent.
Improvement in parent-child connection
With the practice of positive discipline, parents do not have to punish to get rid of problematic behaviour. There would be no more yelling or hostility. Instead, the connection with the kids improve.
Improvement of self-esteem and mental health
If you practice positive parenting, your children will be mentally strong and confident. It will boost their self-esteem. It is said that parents also gain self-esteem and confidence if they follow these principles.
Essential Positive Parenting Tips
1. Practice kind discipline
It is the need of every kid to be disciplined by wise and compassionate parents. A parent must imply discipline to guide the child. The great Allah says in Holy Quran,
Surely the soul is wont to command (towards) evil except, such as my Lord has mercy on. (12:53)
Without discipline, humans tend to misbehave. Especially a kid is vulnerable as he or she lacks the wisdom of an adult. A positive and kind behave is much more effective than punishment to settle a misbehaving kid. Moreover, it helps to engage him in learning new behaviour. Gently explain to your child why misbehaving is bad. Use the process of ‘time out.’
In this process, the kid is simply removed from the overstimulating ambience which aggravates misbehaviour. Then he or she is put into a calm place to become serene and safe.
2. Focus on the real reasons behind the misbehaviour
A kid never misbehaves without a reason. Try to find out what causing the trouble. Is your child uncomfortable in the present environment? Is he or she feeling threatened? If we can address the cause directly, we can provide emotional support to our kids. Having emotional support is often more important than having the request met.
3. Practice kindness, but be firm when it is needed
Teach your kids how to be kind and respectful to others. Don’t shout at them or in front of them when a situation is upsetting. They will learn to do the same when they are upset. On other hand, when you are kind and respectful despite being hurt, they also learn to deal with the problems with calmness and respect. But remember, being kind is not the same as giving in. You can firmly yet kindly talk your child out from some illogical requests. A firm and calm ‘no’ is better than a loud and hurtful ‘no’.
4. Be patient
Positive parenting will not change behavioural patterns overnight. It is not about getting fast results. It is teaching good and logical behaviour to your child. It will definitely take time. You may have to do a lot of talking every day as kids learn from repetitions. But they understand, the rewards last a lifetime.
5. Make it a learning process
When kids slowly understand the behavioural pattern, every misbehaving experience can turn to an important lesson in problem-solving. For example, what is the lesson of breaking a toy? He or she cannot play with it anymore. Teach your kids this logical consequence.
Also, tell them that words are the only way to express their feelings rather than misbehaving. Help them to develop good communication skills. It will definitely reduce the temper and tantrums.
Therefore, it is evident now how positive parenting is way better than traditional harsh parenting. It may take time, but with discipline, dedication and determination… you can surely help your child to become a modest and logical person.
(Written by freelance journalist Shreya T)