Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and his grandsons
The Prophet (SAW) loved his grandsons very much. Usamah ibn Zayd reported:
“The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would put me on one of his thighs and he would put Hasan ibn Ali on his other thigh. Then, the Prophet would hug us and he would say, ‘O Allah, be merciful to them as I am merciful to them.’” (Sahih Bukhari)
This reminds us that of course we should discipline children in our care, but we should also remember to have mercy on them and be understanding as they are only children. This kind of balanced understanding will nurture better familial relationships and help us to build a closer and healthier bond. Sometimes children make mistakes, and they learn from their mistakes more effectively if they receive the right guidance from their guardians, carers or elders.
Mentions in Hadiths
The Prophet (SAW) described his grandsons in a way which shows how dear they were to him and that they were very close to his heart. We read in a hadith:
Ibn Abi Nu’m reported: “…I heard the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, say: They are my two sweet-basils in the world.” (Sahih Bukhari)
We read in another hadith that the Prophet (SAW) would make du’aa for Allah to protect his grandsons. Ibn Abbas reported:
“The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, would seek refuge for his grandsons Hasan and Husayn, saying, ‘Verily, your forefather would seek refuge for Ishmael and Isaac. I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and scourge and every harmful eye.’” (Sahih Bukhari)
This also reminds us about the importance of making du’aa for our children and our family. We do what we can to help them, but it is incredibly important for us to make du’aa and seek Allah’s help. As much as the parents and guardians among us may be responsible for the children in their care, Allah is the one who can ultimately protect them.
Children as trial
The Prophet (SAW) mentioned in a sermon about the importance of remembering that our children and wealth are a trial for us. We read in a hadith:
Abu Buraida reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, was delivering a sermon when Hasan and Husayn came wearing red shirts, walking and tripping. The Prophet descended from the pulpit, picked them both up, and placed them in his lap. The Prophet said, “Allah spoke the truth when they said: Verily, your wealth and your children are only a trial for you (64:15). I looked at these two boys walking and tripping and I could not be patient, even I cut short my speech to pick them up.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)
May Allah guide the children of this Ummah and the world, and may He grant strength and patience to their parents, guardians and carers. Aameen.