Some misconceptions about marriage the society is filled with
Many of us are eager to start married life. But we have some misconceptions about marriage. We are not at all prepared for the fact that marriage requires hard work and compromise. There will be disagreements in marital life, and some things will not always be in proportion to one’s expectations.
Finding out the wrong ideas about marriage in advance can be helpful for your future marriage. Overall marriage is a wonderful love affair that arranges a life partner for you. Misconceptions about marriage paint a false picture of marriage and make the marital process more complicated rather than easier for the new couple.
Misconception about types of marriage
The idea of marriage is not the same for everyone, what works for one may not work for another. That is why marriage should be decided by thinking about every regulator. For some couples, it is beneficial to marry according to the choice of the parents, while for others it brings unrest in the family and frustration in life.
“O you who believe, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.” (4:19)
No matter what type of marriage is entered into, it is important to keep in mind the Islamic description of marriage.
The hadith says, “Marry a woman by looking at her four qualities: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her piety. But you will give priority to her piety. Otherwise you will be suffered.”(Bukhari and Muslim)
When considering marriage, these four factors must be considered. However, piety is not given much importance in the present society, Due to which the unrest in the family does not end.
Misconceptions about marriage regarding compromise and effort
Marriage will solve all your problems automatically, will make everything easier, will provide a child quickly. These are all like fairy tales. Actually, marriage requires compromise and effort from both sides.
The wife cannot carry the whole family forever. Both need to contribute to their bond with a sincere and genuine purpose in mind. Couples need to walk the path of life together and respect each other’s needs and feelings. Happiness can never be found in married life without mutual respect and trust. On the contrary, in the absence of these, in many cases, things like divorce also happen.
Controlling one’s tongue is very important in married life. When you get angry and say something to your wife or husband, the effect falls on the heart and this leads to a gradual deterioration in the relationship. Patience is an important teaching of the Qur’an and Sunnah, through which all unrest can end. Allah says,
“O you who believe! Seek help through patience and prayer. Surely Allah is with the patient.” (2: 153).
Misconceptions about marriage about changing the partner
Another common misconception among us is that a wife or husband can be changed at any time after marriage. So in many societies at the beginning of the marriage, the choice of the bride is not given much importance. It is true that there is a chance of divorce after marriage, but it cannot be misapplied. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Among the lawful things, the most disgusting thing to Allah is divorce.” (Abu Dawood)
Sexual misconceptions about marriage
Normal sex helps keep any couple happy. Before marriage, many think that it is possible to fulfill sexual desires any time after marriage. In reality, there is no possibility of this happening. Due to daily life, busy schedule, household, and financial problems, such desires tend to decrease after marriage. This leads to frustration on both sides.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires hard work, patience, mutual respect, and trust. The bond between husband and wife gradually deepens, but it takes time to figure out how to stay together.