Stay positive: Managing mindset during difficult times
“Stay positive” remains one of the challenging affirmations that we tell ourselves every day. Apparently, many tend to feel stuck with stress, self-guilt, self-sabotage, and anxiety during difficult times. This is normal since everyone is highly influenced by the surrounding events. However, what people should refrain from is negativity and dark thoughts in order to pass these dark times. Be aware that hardships are here to teach us life lessons, examine our patience, and change us for the better. Our thoughts affect our mood, actions, activities, and health. Therefore, it is crucial to keep a positive mindset during difficult times.
Here are some mood-boosting tips to follow in order to stay positive during hard times:
Be grateful to stay positive
You stay positive when you think deeply about it. It’s all about your perspective and how you look at your life events. Meaning that during hard times you should adopt optimism and remain grateful for what you have, and what you don’t. For instance, if you got a healthy family and roof to sleep under, you got everything. Focus on what you can manage and actually change it for the better to stay positive. We can’t change what we have no control over. This includes your rizk, environment, love or hate in people’s hearts, etc. rather, it is crucial to focus more often on our behaviors in everyday lives and to please Allah SWT. As mentioned in the Ayah:
“For each one are successive [angels] before and behind him who protect him by the
decree of Allah. Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they
change what is in themselves. And when Allah intends for a people ill, there is no
repelling it. And there is not for them besides Him any patron. “ [Surah Ar-Ra’d;11]
Put your effort to distract yourself from any negative thoughts. This includes doing something fun and out of the box to cut the routine and manage stress. Among the numerous examples, watching series, cooking, running/walking, listening to music..there are endless options. Undoubtedly, these can be a great mood-boosting and can offer you an enjoyable break from negative thoughts. If you strive to stay positive be careful not to entertain yourself with wrong activities, such as smoking, drinking, etc. Another simple way to entertain yourself is to change your surroundings, like organizing and decorating your bedroom. If you found yourself still struggling, call a friend/relative and plan a day out and do something new together. Sometimes doing things with another company affects our moods positively and re-charges our energies with good vibes.
Don’t be a victim
Some would struggle until they accept their faith, but put the blame on themselves. It usually ends with a huge amount of self-guilt and people start seeing themselves as victims. By doing so, you will prolong the feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. Taking responsibility for yourself is what should be on top of your list. Quit victimizing yourself and stay positive about your situation and you will eventually feel better.
(Written by freelancer Yara Lotfy)