Take control of your own happiness by depending solely on Allah
When we take control of our own happiness through depending only on Allah, we are actively putting in effort to improve our lives.
This can be through the avoidance of having expectations of other people. When we expect particular outcomes from others, we could be putting our hearts and minds in a vulnerable place. Islam teaches us that this life was not created by Allah to be perfect, and neither are people. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“And We have made some of you [people] as trial for others – will you have patience? And ever is your Lord, Seeing.” (Qur’an 25:20)
We learn from this that being tested through people is a part of the life of this Dunya.
It is only through depending on Allah that we will find everlasting contentment, not through depending on the creation.
Prioritize our Happiness
It is definitely not straightforward or easy, but taking control of our own happiness through depending only on Allah also involves understanding that we should be careful about how we allow ourselves to feel in life. There will of course be difficult times when we will feel low and it will require us to be patient, but in other parts of our life, we should prioritise our happiness where we can. When we ourselves feel happy, we be more able to help other people too.
We should actively take steps to do things which make ourselves happy, without having too many expectations to receive that result from other people. Sometimes, we are blessed with good family and friends, but our ultimate reliance should be on Allah, and this will protect us.
Quick to Forgive
Taking control of own happiness also involves trying to be more independent. The more independent we become, the less it will affect us when, perhaps, we have had a disagreement with someone. We will not become overwhelmed in scenarios where others have behaved in a way we did not expect.
Furthermore, when we become people who are quick to forgive the shortcomings of others, it is significantly helpful for our own happiness too. Holding grudges in our hearts may lead our thoughts to deceive us into thinking that we are gaining something. The truth is that it really affects our own happiness. When we forgive others, not only will we be building on our good deeds, but we will also feel more at peace because we are focusing more on our own life and happiness.
May Allah enable us to take control of our own happiness by depending only on Him. Aameen.