How will we fulfil our duty of repenting to Allah for our mistakes if we do not even acknowledge that we have ever made any mistakes at all? We must be careful of falling into having an arrogant mindset in which we do not even allow ourselves to realise that we have all made mistakes. If we have no humility and always assume ourselves to be correct, it will be very difficult for us to improve our character and our Imaan. It is a very important part of our religion to take accountability for our actions, have humility in our character and avoid arrogance. We read:
“Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant…” (Qur’an 2:222)
There may be various situations we find ourselves in throughout our lives in which we have made a mistake. We must be very wary in these situations that we do not establish a mindset that causes us not to acknowledge our wrongdoings. We must strive to perceive the act of apologising when we are wrong as something which is completely normal. We must not give into thoughts that may crop up in our minds telling us that apologising is negative and embarrassing.
We must question thoughts that come into our mind that stop us from apologising when we are wrong, as this will help us to think about what the outcome will actually be. This kind of reflection will make us realise that holding back on resolving problems, purely because of things like ego, or worries about reputation, will not bring about any good.
If we all strive to see the resolution of problems as the most important thing, we will not be as concerned about our own ego or reputation. We will realise that forgiveness and apologies will simplify situations, as well as ensure we are practising the belief that Allah is the ultimate Judge. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“Man will be informed that Day of what he sent ahead and kept back.” (Qur’an 75:13)
Even if we have somehow formed our own opinions of the actions of others, or we have decided that we will not take the first step in resolving problems, we should remind ourselves that Allah sees everything and indeed He is who we are accountable to. The more we cement this in our minds, the more we will only be focused on pleasing Him.
Our apologies, our forgiveness, our steps taken to reconcile problems – everything should be with the intention to please our Lord and do what is recommended based on the teachings of our religion. We should try as best as we can to detach ourselves from having an ego and being arrogant, as it will only cause our downfall. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“Assuredly, Allah knows what they conceal and what they declare. Indeed, He does not like the arrogant.” (Qur’an 16:23)
If we feel that developing humility is something that we struggle with, we should continue to try whilst also making du’aa to Allah to help us be successful in this. We should remind ourselves that Allah sees all our efforts. We read in the Holy Qur’an:
“…and He is with you wherever you are. And Allah, of what you do, is Seeing.” (Qur’an 57:4)