Talking about our emotions

As Muslims, we are required to do everything we can to improve ourselves. We may often avoid talking about our emotions with our loved ones even though there are so many benefits of doing so. Being able to express your thoughts and feelings can change your mood and outlook on life significantly. We are supposed to look after our physical health, but taking care of our emotional wellbeing is just as important. We read in the Holy Qur’an:

“And make not your own hands contribute to your destruction; but do good; for Allah loves those who do good.” (Qur’an 2:195)

Talking about our emotions helps us to learn more about ourselves and understand the feelings that we keep inside and usually do not express. Expressing our thoughts teaches us more about how we feel and creates an avenue to look further into why we feel a certain way, and how we can possibly change this if necessary. For example, if we are in a bad mood, talking about our emotions to our loved ones will probably lead to them asking us questions, and then we find a way to express ourselves.

Speaking to close friends and family about our thoughts and feelings can also make us feel better in general. Although sometimes it can be helpful to spend some time alone, spending time with others can boost our mood and be a good way to brighten our day. When we speak to others, we get the opportunity to also hear from them about how they are feeling. Perhaps they are going through a similar time to us, or are able to offer us valuable advice.

This expression of emotions with our loved ones also helps us to develop a stronger relationship with them. By engaging in these conversations, we will feel closer to them and they will also feel closer to us. Trust is established and it also opens up the chance for our family members to know that they can also tell us about what is on their mind. Perhaps they themselves are struggling with something and were not sure who to ask, they too may use this chance to confide in you.

We should remind ourselves that if we find peace through expressing our emotions with our family, or if we better our relationship with our them through doing so, these things only happen because of Allah. Allah is the One who is in charge of everything. We must remember to place our complete trust and ultimate reliance on Him. We read in the Qur’an:

“And for those who fear Allah, He always prepares a way out, and He provides for him from sources he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him. For Allah will surely accomplish His purpose: verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion.” (Qur’an 65:2-3)