Teach your child the importance of smile
When kids grow up in a loving, warm and positive home, they develop into balanced and confident people. We should choose every day to conscientiously parent our own children kindly and lovingly. I know a person who is a pious Muslim. He once informed me that he has never seen his Abba sad or grumpy. Be it a normal time or be it a crisis, his Abba is always smiling in a certain reassuring way. He himself learnt that from his Abba and acknowledged that it has saved him from spiralling into depression. Therefore, it can be concluded that happy parents raise happy and strong children. Children should learn the importance of smile.
When we are patient and treat our kids with the respect they deserve, the effects of growing up in a warm and loving home will positively affect them for their whole life.
Don’t be too harsh to your children
Sometimes, we as a parent or educator cross the fine line between being strict and being harsh. Also, some of us even believe that if we maintain a gap with our kids, they will respect us. This is a very problematic thought process. The concept of ‘Fear is the other name of respect’ will harm our kids severely. For example, if you maintain a gap with your kids, if they remain afraid of you, they won’t be able to become their true self. This will harm them once they grow up. This will teach hypocrisy. Be easy with your children, let them smile and learn freely.
Abu Dhar narrated from the Prophet that he said, “Do not disdain a good deed, (no matter how small it may seem) even if it is your meeting with your brother with a cheerful face” [Sahih Muslim].
The importance of smile and laughter
Do you know that smiling is a science which is needed for the improvement of relationships.
The great playwright and poet, William Shakespeare said, “It’s easier to get what you want with a smile than with the tip of the sword.”
Our beloved Prophet (SAW) was always cheerful and bright-faced. According to the scholars, he always kept smiling at his followers. No one ever saw him grumpy.
One of his followers, Abdullah ibn Al-Harith ibn Hazm said, “I have never seen anyone who smiles more than the Prophet does.” [Tirmidhi]
Moreover, Jarir ibn Abdullah said: “Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) never refused me permission to see him since I embraced Islam and never looked at me but with a smile” [Sahih Muslim].
Scientific explanation on the importance of smile and laughter
Therefore, smiling and laughing can have a positive impact on your child’s wellbeing. It is a large part of your kid’s development.
According to scientists, the brain keeps track of smiles. It is like a smile scorecard. By calculating the number of smiles and laughs, the body knows which overall emotional state we are in. With many children averaging 500 smiles a day, smiling kids are happy kids.
Smiling improves the learning capacity among them as it indicates a happy stress-free environment. But remember, if you want a happy kid, you have to be affectionate.
Therefore, Your home should be a secure place for kids to develop a positive self-image, confidence, and attitude. And you can contribute to it by adding a regular dose of laughter and happiness to your life. After all, our almighty Allah has said,
“It is out of Allah’s mercy that you ˹O Prophet˺ have been lenient with them. Had you been cruel or hard-hearted, they would have certainly abandoned you. So pardon them, ask Allah’s forgiveness for them, and consult with them in ˹conducting˺ matters. Once you make a decision, put your trust in Allah. Surely Allah loves those who trust in Him.” [Quran 3:159]
(Written by freelance journalist Shreya T)