The guideline to forming an ideal family in Islam

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Islam is a way of life. In all aspects of human life, Islam has given guidelines. Family is the fundamental factor in the development of human society. This is why the forming of the family is so important to Islam. Family is the backbone of a nation. Family is the perfect school for the future. Allah says, ”And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Surat Ar-Rum [verse 21])

In another verse of the Qur’an says, ”And Allah has made for you from your mates and has made for you from your mates’ sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?” (Surat An-Nahl [verse 72])

Islam’s first step in forming a family is living in a just and peaceful manner with every member. Allah says, ”And live with them in kindness.” (Surat An-Nisa [verse 19])

The family will become a paradise if they are to connect, do good deeds, and spend time with each other. Aisha reported: ”The Messenger of Allah, “The best of you are the best to their families, and I am the best to my family. When your companion dies, then do not abuse him.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3895)

Marital relationships are formed in Islam by strong ties. Not the slightest mistake ruins it. Allah says, ”For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.” (Surat An-Nisa [verse 19])

Strong faith and honest deeds strengthen the foundation of the family. Narrated Abu Hurairah: ”The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, and awakens his wife; If she refuses, he should sprinkle water on her face. May Allah have mercy on a woman who gets up at night and prays, and awakens her husband; If he refuses, she would sprinkle water on his face. ” (Abu Dawood, 1303)

It is important to teach every member of the family the prohibitions of Allah. The kids of the family then will grow up to Allah with steadfast faith. Allah says, ”O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” (Surat At-Tahrim [verse 6])

The kids must be taught Islamic manners and etiquette. It is the responsibility of both men and women to give the right direction to the family. Narrated `Abdullah bin` Umar: ”a man is the guardian of his family (household) and is responsible for his subjects; a woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and is responsible for them, and the slave of a man is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. Surely, every one of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 7138)

Everyone can live happily and peacefully in the family if they obey the path of Islam.