The importance of choosing good company
A good company is all about people surrounding you. Allah has blessed us with many wonderful friendships throughout our life. Most of them may have served as a comforting, healing balm that has pulled us through some of the more difficult times. Others may have created so much drama and turmoil that we couldn’t cut them loose fast enough! The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to have said, “When souls recognize one another, they will become friends. If not, they will simply part ways.” (Muslim)
Influence of good company
It is said that the face is the mirror of the mind. And this mirror helps bring one person to another and helps us keep good company. Our beloved Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The true servants of Allah are in fact mirrors of one another.” But what is the actual meaning of friendship when you call a friend?
The influence of some people in our lives is positive. They are by our side in times of trouble, and in the time of darkness, they carry us by the hand. Again there are some people whom we think are friends, attracted, but at all, they can give us nothing but negative effects.
The basic feeling of friendship is positive, whether it is someone’s childhood friend or an old friend. The person who will bring worship into your life is the real friend.
Know who is a real good company?
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) further said, “Honest relations are established only when one human being can touch another human being, otherwise one day the paths of each other’s lives will be different.” (Muslim)
A true Muslim should always think that he knows what is good from his friends. There are people who do not agree with us. After spending time with them we feel discomfort, but we do not know why we can’t remove them from life. But Allah keeps giving us hints one after another, if we can move away from this hint then there will be a benefit instead of harm.
As followers of Allah’s command, we should always keep in mind what kind of people we are occupying in life. The right relationship brings us closer to Allah. If other friends are toxic or poisonous then nothing comes of life except discomfort. In addition, faith in Allah can be shaken.
We always attract the kind of people we want to be, so we need to be very aware of our own intentions.
Which policy should I follow?
Allah has given us some principles for an easy and honest relationship.
First of all, whether you are a high school student or a high-ranking corporate employee, you have to deal with things like peer pressure. The negative effects of this peer pressure can turn your life around. But according to the principle of Allah, it is desirable to keep a calm head in this situation.
In fact, we all want to be socially recognized. The effect of peer pressure in the form of this desire brings uncertainty and helplessness in us. Therefore, we should always adopt a relationship that will relieve us of this helplessness. A true friend will never put you under peer pressure.
The Holy Quran also says so,
“Keep yourself in company with those who call on their Lord in the morning and in the evening to seek His pleasure. And do not turn your eyes away from those who desire the beauty of this worldly life. Whose mind I have made oblivious to my remembrance, that who follows his own instincts and whose activity is to transgress, you will not obey him.” (Quran 18:28)
Perfume that you carry
Bad friendships can make us lose our purpose in life. However, the value of honest friendship can be understood only when one falls in the company of dishonest friends. It is known that he is actually in love with me without any interest, who will stand by me in danger.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) explained this difference through a beautiful saying. Narrated from Abu Musa (R), he said that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, “The example of honest companion and dishonest companion is like the perfume seller and blacksmith. You will not return empty-handed from perfume sellers. Either you buy perfume or you will get its fragrance. And the blacksmith’s whip will either burn your house or your clothes, or you will get its stench.” (Bukhari)
So what is the definition of friendship?
According to Allah, only a person with real principles can be a friend of another person. Notice that, people are constantly encouraging you to learn something new. A friend is a person who has love, mercy, honesty, patience, a good attitude, and all the principles of Islam given by Allah. He will criticize you in a perfect way and you will see his thoughts are a reflection of Allah’s command.
Dishonest friendships include doubts, jealousy, complexity, etc., from which honesty and dishonesty can be easily distinguished.
If you are in a ‘toxic friendship’, then first try to lead that person to the path of Allah. If that doesn’t work, leave it at that.
Remember, by the grace of Allah, our friends are the real indicators of our character. So, be careful to make someone friend.
May Allah grant us good friends who will be our helpers in this world and in the hereafter. Ameen.