The right way to respond to the bad words

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Sometimes people hurt us by treating us badly or saying bad things. Sometimes people send us messages or emails using bad words. It often distresses us. These reasons make us angry. But is this the right way to also respond to these bad attitudes with wrong words?

In this article, we will discuss the right way to respond to the wrong words.

The benefits of speaking well

The best thing is the words of the Quran. In many places in the Quran, Allah has instructed His servants to speak well. Because good words benefit people. If the answer to bad words is given by good words; then instead of quarrel, there is peace.

That is why the Prophet (saw) gave many exhortations to speak well. Here are some of them:

Narrated by Ali (R), the Prophet (saw) said,

“There is a palace in Paradise, from the inside of which one can see the outside and from the outside the view of the inside. A Bedouin said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! For whom is this palace for? The Prophet (saw) said: “the person who speaks well to people; the one who feeds the hungry; the person who fasts; and the person who prays when people are asleep. (Tirmidhi)

According to the teaching of this hadith, all Muslims should speak well in all aspects of family, society, and life as well as encouraging others to speak well. Only then the hadith of the Prophet (saw) will be successfully implemented. The one who has good words will get a palace in Paradise.

Speak good words or keep silent

Narrated by Abu Hurairah (R) the Messenger of Allah (saw) said,

“Whoever believes in Allah and the day of resurrection, let him speak well, otherwise he will remain silent.” (Muslim)

In this hadith, if for some reason there is an obstacle to speak well, then be silent with patience.

Allah also declares in the Quran,

‘Speak to people in a good language.’ (2:63)

People speak ‘words’ in exchange for their thoughts. People abuse their speech during this exchange. Which is not desirable in any way.

In order for people to be restrained and decent when speaking, they have to speak well; That is why Allah has revealed verses in the Quran in the case of speaking like prayers and fasting – when speaking, people should speak in a good language.

The Prophet (saw) guaranteed Paradise for the right user in speaking. According to the hadith, the person who will guarantee the Prophet for the protection of his tongue and place of shame; he will assure him of Paradise.

Good words will be rewarded

The Prophet (saw) warned against bad speaking, saying,

“It is enough for a person to be a liar to say what he hears without verifying the truth.”

Therefore, when speaking, one should keep in mind that his words should be rewarded. So it is necessary to pay attention to certain things while speaking according to the command of Allah.

When people talk, of course, they have to speak well. The way to talk well with people will also be good. You have to speak a beautiful elegant compassionate language. So that people can accept those words in elegant and compassionate words for the welfare of the world and the hereafter with love and affection. Saying anything with a rough and hoarse voice; people are not interested in what he says or do not want to hear it.

Good words or good advice should be given with good intentions. Where there will be no greed, violence, fear, or any interest in this world. However, for the benefit of the hereafter, good things can be said for the benefit of the world. But the intention must be correct.

Above all, everyone should be polite and decent when speaking. Only then will the words be acceptable.

Talking too much is not preferable

It is not permissible to say anything that is good to hear, but it becomes sin when talking too much. And if there is too much talk, there is a danger of lies and backbiting. So talking too much should be avoided.

The noble ideal of Islam in speaking is to communicate with everyone, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, with good words. The proof of which is in the Holy Quran.

Allah sent Musa (A) and Harun (A) to Pharaoh and instructed them to speak politely. Allah said,

“You will both speak politely to Pharaoh.”

And there is no substitute for good words in preaching the word of Allah.

May Allah grant the Muslim Ummah to exchange beautiful words when speaking. May Allah grant Paradise to His beloved servants by forming this habit. Ameen.

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