What are good manners in Islam?

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Islam places a great emphasis on manners and on the proper way to deal with others, regardless of age, sex, color, religion, or creed. Relations between people are very important in Islam, and maintaining good manners with others should be the main priority of all practicing Muslims. The importance of this is illustrated in many hadith of Prophet (SAW) which summarized the goal of his entire message into the perfection of the best of manners where he said, “I have been sent upon you to perfect the best of manners.”

The Prophet (SAW) was sent for the mercy of mankind, for the goodness of mankind, and for the guidance of mankind.

Regarding this, Allah Almighty says:

“And We have sent you (O Muhammad) not but as a mercy for the worlds”. (21:107)

Good manners should become a day-to-day practice where we show people respect, avoid unsuitable behavior, act with kindness, make others comfortable, use appropriate language, etc. So just make It a Habit.

The following guidelines and tips are for the young readers which serve as a reminder for them. It is a reminder of why it is so important to respect our parents and elders and for what they have to impart to us that will help ease our journey through life.

Elders and especially parents should always behave like you want them to behave with you. Remember this is a part of our faith and this leads to good manners which in turn increases the faith. These good manners should be observed in one’s personal life as well as in one’s relations with others.

Be kind to parents

Islam has raised kindness to parents to the highest possible level. In numerous verses of the Qur’an, kindness to parents is mentioned immediately after belief in Allah.

Sympathy to parents is obligatory. It means:

To speak to them politely,

Look at them with respect and love,

To be humble with them,

To give them access to your own wealth,

And to offer them the best foods and drinks within your capacity.

Bear in mind, that you were weak one day and helpless and they raised you to be the good Muslim you are today. Always respect your parents’ knowledge, wisdom, grace, and fortitude. You have to understand that they have done the best they can do. They have nurtured and grown us and now it’s time to do the same for them.

We should try our best to avoid upsetting them and should always seek their pleasure as much as possible. After all pleasing one’s parents are one of the most virtuous acts in Islam.

Allah says: “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him and good treatment to parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age while with you, say not to them so much as, ‘and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (17: 23)

Respect the elders

This should be also applied to any elders you deal with.

Recognize the status of the elderly and give them proper respect. While walking with them, walk slightly behind them and let them enter and exit first.

When you meet them, greet them respectfully and properly do it with grace. Not just because he is older than you. Just do it because they matter as human beings.

When you discuss something with them, let them speak first, and listen to them attentively; talk directly to them, not around them.

If the conversation involves debate, you should remain polite, gentle, and calm. Always keep in mind that they are more experienced and wise than you. And also ensure that you speak to them in a low tone.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“Whoever does not respect our elders, is not compassionate to our youth, and does not give our scholars proper honor is not among my Ummah.”

He also said:

“The most beloved to Allah among His servant are those with the best manners.”

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