What you should know before you get married?
Marriage is a social bond or legal contract through which a marital relationship is established between a man and a woman. This way an ideal family and a safe society are formed. Marriage is not only a close relationship between men and women but also a key tool in building a healthy and normal society. Planning should be done before marriage so that marital life is beautiful.
Here are some important tips to start a beautiful married life. Which will be very fruitful for both men and women InshaAllah-
1. Pray Istikharah Salah before you get married
Marriage is a very important issue in the life of all men and women. So when someone decides to get married, it is their duty to seek good from Allah through Istikharah.
If it is a good deed, Allah turns the mind of the servant towards it. If it is evil, He turns the mind of the servant away from that deed. Since establishing a marital relationship is important for a lifetime, it is important to know if there is any good for you in the intended marriage.
2. Consult with experienced people
Before consenting to marriage, one should consult with someone who is well-experienced in the subject of marriage.
The Prophet (SAW) used to consult his Companions more and more in any matter. Abu Huraira (R) said, “I have not seen anyone other than the Messenger of Allah (SAW), consult with his companions more.” (Tirmidhi)
But whoever is consulted, in this case also has a duty to maintain loyalty. Just as he does not hide any faults, so he does not make up his own faults. And of course, he should refrain from telling anyone about this consultation.
3. Seeing the bride or groom before you get married
Islamic law allows the bride and groom to meet before marriage. But there are also clear guidelines about that. The Prophet (SAW) said:
“When one of you proposes marriage to a woman, then if he can see the beauty of that woman that fascinates him and inspires the girl to marry him, let him see it.”
4. Getting the permission of the bride at the wedding
It is very important to get the permission of a woman in marriage. He has the right to seek the opinion of the bride in the decision of marriage. It is also inappropriate for him to go beyond the will of the father or guardians.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “A woman who has been married before has more right to decide on her own than her father or guardian, and permission must be sought to marry a virgin girl. But silence is her consent. ” (Bukhari and Muslim)
5. The interaction before you get married
Before marriage, a woman can communicate with the man proposing marriage through a mobile, letter, or any other means. However, this contact will only be to discuss the marriage contract or terms. And this communication must be in an emotionless and emotional way. Note that this communication should be with the consent of both parents or guardians.
But before marriage, going out with the proposer, going on a trip, or staying in solitude is completely forbidden in Islam. Because that man is none of her until she gets married. It is obligatory to protect the screen with him.
6. Not proposing to someone while he/she is talking about marriage with another person
It is strictly forbidden in Islamic law to propose marriage to a woman at a time when she is negotiating to marry someone else or when a woman has agreed to marry someone else. However, if the first proposer gives permission or withdraws the marriage proposal, then the second one can propose marriage to that woman.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “A believer is the brother of another believer. So it is forbidden for one brother to charge more than one brother when buying something, or when one brother proposes to a woman, it is forbidden for the other brother to propose marriage to her unless he gives him permission. ” (Muslim)
7. Not to reject the offer of a suitable bride or groom
It should not be rejected when a marriage proposal comes from a suitable bride or groom. The Prophet (SAW) urged in this regard.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “If someone proposes marriage to you whose righteousness and character you are satisfied with, you should marry him. If you don’t do that, there will be chaos and anarchy in the society.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet (SAW) added, “Three things should not be delayed. 1) Performing Salah – when the time comes, 2) burial – when funeral prayer is done and 3) marriage of a woman – when a man of equal status proposes her for marriage.” (Tirmidhi)